Fear is one of the most basic human emotions, wired into our nervous system to help us survive. When your heart races, breathing quickens, and muscles tense, your body is preparing to respond to a possible threat. This is useful when danger is real. However, fear does not only appear in life-or-death moments. It can be manufactured and shaped by the stories we are told, the schemas we hold, and what is stored in our unconscious mind.

Experiencing grief is unique for each individual and there are many variables that are attributed to how it's processed over time.

What you may be encountering is what is referred to as a negative core belief that seems to have advantages.